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From Soulmate to Nightmare: My Journey with a Narcissist
How I Survived the Emotional Rollercoaster of Narcissistic Abuse and Found My Path to Healing
I remember the moment I thought I’d found my soulmate. It was one of those rare, magical times when everything seemed perfect, and I truly believed I had met “the one.” But falling for someone with narcissistic traits? That’s a whole different story — a heart-wrenching, emotional rollercoaster I didn’t see coming.
When you’re involved with a narcissist, you’re dealing with an expert performer. They charm their way into your life, putting on a convincing show of being logical and caring. They make you feel exceptional and convince you that their feelings for you are as deep as yours are for them. But beneath this façade, there’s a storm brewing.
Narcissistic abuse, for me, was primarily emotional, though it can include physical and sexual abuse as well. The abuse came from someone with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) — someone who hides behind a mask of charm while inflicting pain. It started with insults, harsh criticism, silent treatment, and gaslighting. It wasn’t immediate; it creeped in slowly after the initial honeymoon phase.
Narcissists have a knack for making you doubt yourself. They are hyper-critical…
